Carolyn Burke STL Blog

Who knew planning a wedding would be akin to staging a major Broadway production? To help out with your co-directorial debut, I have prepared a cross-section of the wedding day cast of characters. (Keep in mind that most roles can be played by either gender, and by as many people as you want.) This is actually a really long post in five parts. So enjoy . . . Father of the Bride In traditional wedding circles, this guy fronts most of the cash -- that's no small feat. In addition, brides' dads have picked up additional to-dos along the way. Dad's chores might include airport duty, coordinating maps/directions to the wedding site, scouting potential locations, doling out tips to wedding day staff, and a variety of toasting and hosting tasks. The best part being the escort to the bride as she walks down the aisle. Father of the Groom He used to get away with fading into the woodwork, but nowadays he's suited up for action. In terms of cost contribution...

Who knew planning a wedding would be akin to staging a major Broadway production? To help out with your co-directorial debut, I have prepared a cross-section of the wedding day cast of characters. (Keep in mind that most roles can be played by either gender, and by as many people as you want.) This is actually a really long post in five parts. So enjoy . . . The Best Man Best Man/Attendant This guy (and rarely gals) acts as groom's valet (personal aide and advisor) through all stages of wedding planning. He's a fashion consultant, bachelor-party master of ceremonies, and commander-in-chief of the groomsmen brigade. His duties include (but aren't limited to): getting the groom to the ceremony on time; giving the officiant his/her fee after the ceremony; signing the couple's marriage license as a witness; and holding the bride's ring at the altar. He also is famous for his toasting skills at the reception. Maid/Matron/Man of Honor Whether she's b...

Pass this on to your mother and future mother-in-law. Responsibilities of the Mother of the Bride First and foremost, be a warm listener, chief cheerleader, constantly complimenting, and otherwise a source of support for your daughter. Help the bride find the wedding dress of her dreams, as well as other wedding attire. Help look for wedding and reception locations, particularly if the wedding is taking place in your home town and not theirs. If you haven't already met, contact the groom's parents and arrange to meet. Choose your mother-of-the-bride dress as soon as possible, then let the groom's mother know what you have picked.   If possible, send her a swatch of the fabric and/or pictures so that she can look for a gown that will compliment yours. Discuss the wedding budget with your daughter and her fiancé, including what you are willing to pay for, and the ideal total number of guests. Quickly draw up the guest list for your side of the...