Ceremony for Introverts

 Do you have a personality where a traditional ceremony scares you? Being the center of attention may not appeal to you, but there are ways to rethink the structure the event.

Your wedding ceremony should be true to both of you - that includes reflecting your style and personalities. If you are both introverts, you could consider a city hall ceremony. This allows you to bring a few friends, keeping things intimate and casual. St Louis City Hall and St Charles Executive Building has a great space to have a simple 5-minute ceremony.  


As an alternative, rethink the day in a way that pulls the attention away from you. You could SKIP walking down a traditional aisle and instead hang out with your guests preceremony. 

There does not have to be a processional. Just get married where you are, on your terms. Starting the ceremony together might make you more comfortable. In the end, the goal of the wedding ceremony is to make your commitment of love in front of those you can about most. This can really take place in whatever form feels most authentic to your relationship.


Carolyn Burke | Officiant  314.821.4844

15 Unique Ceremony Ideas

Here are a few unconventional ceremony ideas to take you down the aisle with a twist.

1. Let your guests mingle over cocktails before the ceremony.

2. The couple greets the guests as they arrive at the ceremony site.

3. Face the guests when you recite your wedding vows.

4. Have your guests sit or stand in a circle around you during the ceremony.

Ceremony in the Round

5. Have both parents walk you down the aisle.

Dad - Bride - Mom

6. Have your husband-to-be escort you to the altar.

7. Don’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen - just the two of you.

8. Have an uneven number of attendants.
    (Maybe you just want a maid of honor, but he wants three groomsmen.)

9. Have a “man of honor” instead of a maid of honor. (Your brother? A good male friend?)

10. Have the groom choose a “best woman.” (His sister? A good female friend?)

11. Don’t wear a veil.

12. Have bridesmaids carry candles instead of bouquets as they walk down the aisle.

Bridesmaids Hold Candles

13. Write your own vows.

14. Have a ring warming. (What’s a ring warming you ask? There are different versions of this, but generally the rings are placed in a small bag and are passed around to each guest prior to the ring exchange. Each guest blesses the rings or says a prayer.)

15. Choose unconventional processional and/or recessional music. (Love The Beatles? Love Leonard Cohen? Go for it! You don’t have to stick with Pachelbel’s Canon or Ode to Joy.)



Carolyn Burke | Officiant  314.821.4844

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