The Science of Relationships

Marriage may simply be about celebrating a milestone: recognizing the relationship that a couple has built together and the love that they share for each other. But weddings are also very future-oriented, as the couple publicly promises to maintain their relationship for life.  Marriage vows – the solemn promises that the newlyweds make to each other in front of their closest friends and family – are why weddings have such an emotional impact.

If these promises are the essence of what it means to be married, then what exactly do you want to promise each other? You could always go with the traditional marriage vows: for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, for better for worse…but, these seemed a bit too vague for our tastes.

Below are the ten promises taken from www.ScienceOfRelationships.com
Each of these promises is going to help achieve long-term marital bliss (we hope).

1.  I promise to respect, admire and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.

2.  I promise to support and protect your freedom, because although our lives are intertwined, your choices are still yours alone.

3.  I promise to seek a deep understanding of your wishes, your desires, your fears, and your dreams.

4.  I promise to always strive to meet your needs, not out of obligation, but because it delights me to see you happy.

5.  I promise to be there for you when you need me, whenever you need me.

6.  I promise to nurture your goals and ambitions; to support you through misfortune, and to celebrate your triumphs.

7.  I promise to keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion.

8.  I promise to persevere when times get tough, knowing that any challenges we might face, we will conquer them together.

9.  I promise to treat you with compassion rather than fairness, because we are a team, now and for always.

10.  I promise to show you, every day, that I know exactly how lucky I am to have you in my life.